I am ready for love. Society tells me else wise. Everyone piles excuses on my back and shove opinions down my throat on why I am not ready.
Let’s begin with those friends who tell me that I am too young and that I must wait. Followed by those who tell me that I must traditionally wait until I finish school to find the love of my life. Lastly, the men that strung me along and left me because I wasn’t “the one” or “wife material”. You’re right, you weren’t meant for me either and I fully accept that, but what you fail to realize is I am meant to be someone else’s wife.
I am ready for the man who knows what he wants. I am young, but that doesn’t mean that my time is not ticking. We all have our own time when God tells us we are ready. I wait for this time. In the meantime, I refuse to allow any random man to knock on my door and attempt to huff, puff, and blow my house down once he is finished with me. I may be young, but I know what I want and playing games are not one of them. I stopped playing with toys a long time ago. My priorities will not change. I will not adjust or change myself simply because you do not like something. The more you waste your time trying to change someone, it will be too late because now you are stuck with that person. You both will grow unhappy because you created something that you will never be satisfied with. So, you will cheat. You will shop for something new. You’ll never be happy. Either accept someone for who they are or let them go.
I simply don’t understand the term “too young”. With the new generations, including mine, everyone is afraid to settle while young. People are afraid to settle because of what others might say about them. Unless everyone is saying that he/she is wrong for you and your heart tells you that as well, you should never care for one’s opinion about your life. Now, I’m not saying to foolishly fall in love if your mind set is like a 12 year old’s. Or you’re just simply not ready for whatever reason, so patience love. I also agree that you must love yourself first before you can love anyone else. However, early, mid, or late 20’s, even early 30’s, not everyone’s mindset are mature enough. Age is simply a number, it all depends on one’s mindset. I have dated men closer to their 30’s and still behave as if they’re in high school. One man told me that he likes dating younger women because they aren’t serious and he just wants to have fun. RED FLAG, I ran as fast as I could and never spoke to him again.
Don’t cry when you fall in love with whomever that does not take you serious. That man/woman who is in your bed at 2 am is the one telling you that you’re not ready for love, but sweetie no matter how great of a person you are you’ll never be good enough to them because they are simply “not ready”. Never lower your standards. Get rid of them and be as patient as possible until someone else proves to you that you are worth the wait.
I am ready for the day that God awakens my Adam. For the love, not war relationship. For the till death do us apart relationship. My Adam will be my best friend and the person that I grow old with. We will go through the rain and shine together. A family sounds beautiful as well in time when we are ready. Until then, I am patient.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.