So You Want a Man?

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So you want a man….

But God is not first in your life even though it is written on your social media bio and you go to church every now and then but your fruit is rotten.

You worship the devil as his poison takes over your body like hypnotism and the moment he snaps his finger, you are now his. You allow him to control your thoughts as he strings you along to danger. Like a ventriloquist, and you are now his dumny trapped in a broken doll’s body.

So you want a man….

But you disrespect your body. Showing half nude photos for everyone’s eyes to see and wonder why men disrespect you because the first thing they see aren’t your eyes. Cover up sis, save that for the man that says, “I do.”

So you want a man….

But you do not love yourself. Therefore your eyes wander like the lion that seeks prey. Hoping that if you circle around men long enough, they will notice you. That is when you are unable to distinguish between your wants vs. your needs. Assuming because you are lonely, you need someone to fill in your voids.

So you want a man….

But your heart is not in the right place. Are you ready for love or are you ready to lust? Does your love match the love that is in 1 Corinthians 13, or does it match the dysfunctional lust from the TV show that involves B6-13?

Will you honor and respect his decisions, will you submit to your one day husband? Whatever comes out of your mouth cuts, slice, and dice a man’s spirit. You’re focused on pointing out everything that is wrong instead of praising what is right. Where is your loyalty, respect, and support? You are like the big bad wolf that huffs, puffs, and blows the house down before a platform can be built on.

So you want a man….

But you’re single and focused on everyone else’s relationships while playing the waiting game. Noticing everyone that is getting married, having children, and paying attention to relationship goals. I really hope and pray that does not carry into your future relationship because that is how comparison starts. Be careful!

You allow everyone to fill your head with the thoughts of you needing a man because your clock is ticking. Rebuke those negative words, it’s never too late. God’s timing is never too late! Save yourself from rushing and avoid another heartbreak. How will you know who is God sent, when you press accept and send to every invitation from random men?

So you want a man….

But first, you need to work on your relationship with God. You cannot love others if you do not love Him. Allow Him to mold you into the woman He created you to be. He will break you and carve His masterpiece like sculptured ice. Keep in mind that although He is preparing your one day husband, He needs to prepare you as well.

He will never send His sons to women who are not prepared. I am not saying that you need to be perfect, but you need to be ready. You might have a son one day and this also goes for those who already have one: Would you give him away one day to a woman who is destructive?

How is your prayer life? How you treat others says a lot about yourself. How do you handle situations in your life? Are you constantly moody, depressed, wicked, and fresh out the mouth? Pray and ask Him to show you the areas in your life that you need to work on.

Your husband will challenge you. You need to be able to pass those tests and learn how to fight for your relationship when the enemy tries to tear you apart. There’s a lot to learn. Enjoy your single season and be content. Because the moment you realize your man cannot fulfill you, that regret will taunt you for the rest of your life. Because you did not listen to God when He told you to leave that random alone, but you wanted love. You wanted to put on a show, but once it was over things got real. Then you will cry yourself to sleep every night as you stare at a man you do not truly love asking, “God, why did I get married?”

Be patient.

From the experience of a woman who was once in your position.

– Crystal


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