Love 101: Obsessed and Distressed.

She was a girl who dreamt about love. She looked up to Cinderella because her life was the same as hers before the prince. She planned her wedding, looked at dresses, and fantasized about her prince charming before she even met him. She was full of love, pure, and charming.

She was so obsessed with love, that she found love in the wrong men. Her prince charming turned into the tin man in disguise. She was used, verbally abused, and broken into pieces….


What is it with women and their obsession with finding happiness in men? Although in Genesis 3, it says our desires will be for our husband because of Eve’s disobedience… (thanks)… But, what about our desires for God?

The woman described used to be the young girl I once knew. This was before I became completely broken that I surrendered everything. Fairytales are entertaining, but we need to keep our head out of the clouds.

No one will fill in your voids the way God does. You will never find happiness and satisfaction in any human being. I write so that I can reach out to women and young girls who have dealt with what I have gone through or those who are about to regret making permanent decisions based on temporary feelings.


If you want to read my book, ‘A Sense of Hope: The Truth and Lies Told From the Absence of Love‘ it is available on Amazon and kindle. I describe my past and relationships I were in. I describe how I felt trapped and suffered from identity crisis. I wanted to end my life because I was abused. I also write about how I managed to keep a smile despite everything I went through. On the bright side, in John 1:5 it says:


The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.

Pray through this process. Spend more time with God. Cast your worries onto God, your time will come. I don’t need this idol obsession of a baby with a bow and arrow to tell me that I need to fall in love with someone. When you are so focused on loving God, you won’t have time for anything and anyone that is not sent by Him. You become to know Him and yourself better. You know your worth, you know His love, therefore if anyone’s love does not match God’s love then be quick to say goodbye before you get a hello.

If you are with someone or interested in knowing someone better, read 1 Corinthians 13 and see if their love matches the scripture. Place their name before every sentence. If not, let it go and wait! I’m not saying anyone is perfect, but you know when someone is not right for you. Don’t get so caught up in this month of “love” that you are blinded by the truth.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8 Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.

13 So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

– Crystal


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